The Bulletproof Marriage Pt.1 Power of Covenants

Pastors Gil and Liz are excited to introduce The Bulletproof Marriage series! In this episode, they share their relationship with the author and the personal meaning this series has in their own marriage. They’re confident that the power of God’s truths shared here can change any situation and bring hope where there has been strife, frustration, and despair. Whether you’re married now or thinking about getting married, this relevant series will prepare, equip, and empower you to build a relationship that really is “bulletproof!”

📖 Scripture References
Job 1:5-11, Proverbs 9:10, Proverbs 10:27, Deuteronomy 32:30, Ephesians 4:27-30

📖 This series is based on Dream Marriage Vol. II: The Bulletproof Marriage by Bishop Duane & Sunny Swilley — grab your copy here: https://a.co/d/0gUgck2i

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SPEAKER_05 0:02

Hey, this is Pastor Gill from the Father's House East D in Jensen Beach, Florida, and we welcome you to our weekly podcast. Thank you for joining us today for the relevant messages and genuine conversations. We hope dreams and God's promises for you are awakened and restored. Be inspired, be challenged, and be reminded that God is not done with your story, and He has more for you than you can think or imagine. Enjoy the message. Hey there, I'm Gil.

SPEAKER_02 0:36

And I'm Liz. And today we're so excited to spend time together with you. We welcome you to come on in and join us at the Father's House as we begin a powerful series. It's going to include vulnerable conversations and our sharing from a book called The Bulletproof Marriage. Now, before you think too many thoughts, I we just want to say that this is not just a good book we picked up at Barnes and Noble or we ordered off Amazon. And then after we read it, we said, wow, that's really good information. We need to share this with the TFH community. No, this book was written by someone who we know personally, and from their early childhood, they were in a different church every weekend with their parents as they traveled around the nation ministering on marriage and family. The author himself has performed over a thousand weddings, counseled thousands of couples, whether dating or married. He's also written multiple books on this and other subjects. Shortly after they moved to Miami was when we were introduced to Bishop Duane Swilly and his beautiful wife Deborah. Back in the 1990s, my father, Pastor Tom of Calvary Worship Center in St. Lucie West, invited Duane and Sonny to minister once a month on Friday nights. And they would come up from Miami and they would bring their youth choir. And so between our team and our worship team and their music and the powerful preaching and ministry, we definitely had some anointed and unforgettable times and moments in the presence of God in those meetings. They were powerful. But life goes on and we didn't see them for many years. And it was in 2017, Gil and I were now living in Tennessee. We had been up there for 10 years. We were now pastoring a church, but we just felt that we needed some trusted spiritual input for the church and for our marriage. So I looked on my phone, I had Bishop's number, and so I called it. So after 20 years, I didn't know if that number would work or not, but I dialed that number and he answered that phone and we began to talk and share. And it was like it was like 20 years hadn't even passed. It was like we had just talked yesterday. What's interesting is that we were living in Knoxville. Um, but at the time in 2017 when we called them, they were in Miami. But shortly thereafter, they moved back to Atlanta to help take care of his father, who was now elderly. And they were only like three and a half hours from us. So we invited them to come up to higher ground and speak in our church, which they did three or four times. We went down to Atlanta and were in meetings with them there. And our covenant relationship was deepening. But as time went on, Gil and I were feeling that God's direction was changing. We're feeling that something different was coming. And so I just wanted to say that the power of covenant relationships, like we had with Bishop, is strong, and God uses those to provide us direction and to sometimes confirm through covenant relationship the direction that God would really want us to take. So Bishop was key in our closing higher ground and eventually moving back to Florida, which is something that Gil and I said we would absolutely never do. We never wanted to come back to Florida. We loved Tennessee, but yet we felt God was calling us back. So we moved back in 2021. And interestingly enough, again, they moved back to Miami just around the same time. I was given the opportunity to proofread and edit Bishop's latest book. It's called Dream Marriage Part 2, The Bulletproof Marriage. It was my honor to do that. It was a project that when you proofread and edit a book, and you're in those pages, every word, every punctuation mark, it really became a part of us. Now you know some of the history, and you can see that this book to Gil and I isn't just another book. There is a powerful covenant relationship between Bishop Duane and Deborah. And through the years, they have not only been counselors when we needed help, but they are advisors and on the board of our ministry here. But most importantly, they are our spiritual father and mother. They are affectionately called dad and mom. They are family to us with whom we are in covenant relationship that God has used powerfully in our lives to impart guidance, wisdom, and anointing to walk in our purpose and fulfill the destiny that God has for Gil and I. So that's the background and the foundation of the bulletproof marriage. And what we're going to be sharing and opening up ourselves to you, we do with the hope and the prayer that the anointing of the Holy Spirit and the wisdom and the love of God and the truth of God on this important subject called marriage that deals with relationships and family and couples, that this will all come through these podcasts and come straight into your heart and radically transform your life and your marriage and your family relationships.

SPEAKER_01 6:51

So, Gil, what is in your heart?

SPEAKER_02 6:53

And why do you believe there is such a need today for the wisdom and biblical insight that is found in the bulletproof marriage?

SPEAKER_05 7:02

Marriage is considered to be a sacrament in many church denominations, recognized as important and significant. It's a three-way sacred commitment, a covenant between a man, a woman, and God. My parents were married all my life. Never did I ever really see them argue or disagree. They worked out their marriage. They worked it out between them. And what I saw was a unified front. Two people working together for a common goal. My wife, her parents were married her entire uh life. Uh they got married at a very early age, 16 and 17 years old. They stayed together through thick and thin, through times of trouble and times of turmoil in their lives. They too stuck it out. She saw different aspects. Liz, what did you see in your parents at times?

SPEAKER_02 8:09

Well, they were married in 1950, and dad passed away in 2024. They were married 74 years. That's a long time. Um, but unlike your parents, if my parents disagreed, they didn't take it behind closed doors. Sometimes they would be, especially before we got saved, and and dad got saved. Uh I remember living in Ohio and they got in a fight one day, and then the from the kitchen, you know, someone threw an egg down the hallway onto the entry hall wall, and that egg stayed there for a while. I don't know who threw it, and I don't know who cleaned it up, but that egg stayed there. And there were times, actually, that it would get kind of bad. And I remember one time mom left and she says, I'm gonna go back to Ohio. Uh, she made it to Ocala and she turned around. Um, another time, dad went and spent a couple nights in the holiday inn here in Stewart because they'd gotten into such a fight. But he came back and he just talked about sharing the room with the cockroaches. But divorce was not the option. They did work it out through the trials. And I I don't know, it kind of feel like, you know, today we have to be willing to not expect perfection from each of our spouses. I think that's where we can just think, God, how is this ever gonna work? We don't get along, we don't this or that. But that's part of what bulletproof marriage is gonna help people through because there are ways to work out those conflicts, but we can't expect perfection in each other. And how are we going to, you know, get past and get through these times where we don't agree?

SPEAKER_05 10:05

That's true. So that's what we're seeing. We're seeing the fruit of people that are living together and not have a commitment together.

SPEAKER_02 10:16

And because they have a negative view of it somewhere, somewhere in their family, it could have been their parents, it could have been somebody else, or maybe their parents weren't married.

SPEAKER_05 10:25

Yeah. So what we're seeing is a shift in society where people no longer are really willing to get married. It's more convenient for them to just live together and do life together. And if it doesn't work out, then there's no there's no binding contract between them, and they just separate. And it doesn't matter if they have children together or bought a house together or anything of that nature, because they don't think about the the repercussions that happen in that. And what they're actually doing is they're breaking, they're going against, I should say, the very foundation that God had instituted from the beginning. When God put Adam and Eve together, they became one flesh, they were one entity, and people don't sense that anymore, they don't want that connection, or they don't seem to want that connection because they don't have a good role for that connection. So therefore, it's a time men and women don't really look forward to, they don't desire to be married.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

And they're getting married later and later, statistics annoying.

SPEAKER_05 11:37

Yeah, getting married later and later. They're forming negative opinions on marriage because they've never witnessed a bulletproof marriage. They don't know what that type of union is all about. They don't know what it means to sit down with a spouse and work out differences and things that irritate, things that drive the other person crazy. Where so today, you know, when Bishop goes to Europe and he preaches on the bulletproof marriage and different uh aspects of the relationship, they think he he's speaking a different language. Yeah, they don't understand it, they don't see it, they don't experience it.

SPEAKER_02 12:20

Well, in their society over there too, it's not held sacred. You know, we've walked away from the Bible as the foundation of our truth, and so therefore, they don't see the need. But we can't negate truth. God did ordain marriage and he wanted family, he wanted us born into a family, raised in a secure family to be able to procreate and keep it going generation after generation.

SPEAKER_05 12:54

This is what we need to focus on the bulletproof marriage.

SPEAKER_02 12:57

And it's that's the power of it, because in this series, we are going to learn and really hear the beauty of this covenant relationship and how to get it working together. Our marriages really can be bulletproof, and we can provide that secure environment for our children and for our family. And these are blessings and generational blessings that get passed down to our children and our grandchildren.

SPEAKER_05 13:26

In this introduction, I think that one thing that you just said about covenant, about learning how to make things work. I think when the word covenant is spoken, I don't believe people understand the full impact of that word. And they do not know how to implement a covenant in their relationship and how powerful that covenant is in their relationship, where it brings accountability between each other and it brings about a change in their relationships and it brings harmony, it brings continuity, it brings peace into a relationship.

SPEAKER_02 14:15

And I would say too that it brings unity, as you said, but it brings that connection that we're really looking for. We're made for fellowship. We get married because we want to spend the rest of our lives with this person, with this best friend that we have. You know, and we want that oneness and we want that communication and that intimacy. That's where it all flows from.

SPEAKER_04 14:43

Amen. Amen.

SPEAKER_02 14:51

Are we ready?

SPEAKER_05 14:52

Marriage is considered to be a sacrament in many church denominations, recognized as particularly important and significant. It's a three-way sacred commitment, a covenant between a man, a woman, and God. And I want to stop here by saying this is my parents were married their entire life. They when they were raising um my two sisters and I, there was never a time in their lives where we thought that there was any separation in their marriage. They stayed together, and their mantra was that divorce was never an option. My wife's parents got married at a very young age. What, 16? 16 and 17. 16 and 17 years old. They've been married for 74 years. We have the honor and privilege of having my mother-in-law living with us today, and she's still kicking and raising Cain. So we're very blessed to have her. During their marriage, they went through many trials and tribulations, uh, a few skirmishes, a few wars, but never was divorce an option in their life in their minds. Uh there was uh there was times where they needed to go to opposite corners. But there was never a time where that union was in question.

SPEAKER_02 16:19

Yeah, you know, um like did you say that your parents, you never really felt any disunity between them or anything?

SPEAKER_05 16:30

I never did. Um I I can't say never. I mean, and there were times where I knew that they were not at not in total agreement. They weren't in total agreement, they weren't clicking. And you know, I understand now today, I understand that. I've been married to Liz for 37 years. 30 I got it right, 37 years.

SPEAKER_03 16:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 16:56

And uh, so I understand there are times in our marriage relationship where you do not come into agreement.

SPEAKER_02 17:03

Yeah, but you know, with my parents, I wasn't raised in a saved home. You know, mom went to church, dad didn't, dad worked. That's what he did. But they were not discreet about their arguments before they got saved. I just remember when we lived in Ohio and I was under the age of 11. I remember when they got into a fight and an egg got thrown from the kitchen down the hallway, and it stayed on the wall of the entry hall for a while until I don't know who threw the egg and I don't know who cleaned it up. They were just more vocal sometimes with their disagreements. But yet I will say one thing though. We had a strong home in the midst of all that. We we still had a strong family, though there were those disagreements. But no, it's like your parents, divorce was never an option. It it just wasn't a big thing back then.

SPEAKER_05 18:02

But today it's viewed as a failed proposition. That you know, the world's view is why tie yourself together with someone and that may or may not work out. And unfortunately, that's exactly what happens. It doesn't work out because they don't have that that covenant solidified in their lives.

SPEAKER_02 18:22

Um, yeah, if they come from a weak family, that's all they see, and they don't want to get back involved. And do you know that today young men and women are looking forward to or getting married later and later? As a matter of fact, I think I heard the age now is sometimes up but up until 40. They're waiting a long time to get married when, like we said, my parents got married at 16 and 17.

SPEAKER_05 18:50

You know, let the games begin.

SPEAKER_02 18:52

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 18:54

And and Bishop, when he goes over to Europe and teaches on marriage and covenant, he says that it's like speaking another language, they they just don't quite understand it.

SPEAKER_02 19:05

Um marriage is not held in high regard over there.

SPEAKER_05 19:10

It's not.

SPEAKER_02 19:11

And not so much here anymore either.

SPEAKER_05 19:15

Right. So we have today we have people living together, having kids. And they'd rather do that than making covenants in marriage. They have a they have negative opinions, and they've never witnessed a marriage in their homes or in their community as a bulletproof marriage.

SPEAKER_01 19:38

That's right.

SPEAKER_05 19:39

And we know of people that are living together and having kids. And when you watch them as they operate together, there is no commitment, there is no oneness, if you will.

SPEAKER_02 19:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 19:52

With this book that we're gonna introduce to you today, it it's something that Liz and I have read together and discuss it. And Liz would like to explain some of that to you. Something that we did, something that worked, something that changed. It's a testimony.

SPEAKER_02 20:10

After it was published, Gil and I thought, okay, we need to read this book together. So we did. Every morning we'd get up at 6 a.m. and we would read one chapter. And basically, Gil did most of that reading. He would read it aloud, and then we would ask ourselves some questions. Maybe we'd say, Hey, how does this chapter apply to our relationship? And we'd talk about that. Or was something said in this chapter that you think I need to work on or improve in our relationship? Or after reading this chapter, what changes can we together make in our marriage to make it more bulletproof? So it really opened up conversation. We would talk things over, we would we would listen for the voice of the Holy Spirit in what the other person was saying. Now, I'm not saying that that's easy, because to do that, you have to lay down your opinions. If you're going to really listen to your spouse, you have to lay down your preconceived thoughts. And it goes both ways. It's both the man and the woman have to do this, you know. But we also learned through our 6 a.m. morning sessions, they were powerful. They were powerful because we began to break down our opinions and really listen and hear what the other person was trying to say. You know, you can listen or you can hear, but they're not. The same. Just like with Asher, Asher can hear me calling him, but he's ain't listening.

SPEAKER_05 22:08

Who's Asher?

SPEAKER_02 22:09

Asher is our friendly pit bull. He's the best dog in the world that we've ever had. But I'll tell you, when he's outside and he doesn't want to come in, he can hear me calling him, but he is not listening. So there is a difference between listening and hearing.

SPEAKER_05 22:24

The point being that we can call him and call him. If he's got his mind set on sniffing out a squirrel, he's fine.

SPEAKER_02 22:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 22:31

He doesn't care if you're calling him or not.

SPEAKER_02 22:33

No.

SPEAKER_05 22:33

But the minute you ask him if he wants to go for a ride, oh yeah, he's Johnny on the spot. He's on.

SPEAKER_02 22:39

He's on. Yeah, that's so true. So we learned that okay, if we're gonna sit and have these kind of conversations over these chapters that get to some nitty-gritty thing, we had to lovingly, lovingly, openly, honestly bring up an area like that I would see in Gil that I felt needed to be worked on, or things that he did that could hurt me or I didn't understand. But we weren't attacking it, we were lovingly opening them up in an atmosphere that was okay, I'm ready to have you say to me what you want to say, I may not like it, but I'm going to listen.

SPEAKER_05 23:32

I have an example. Not in our life, but my parents my dad used to tell me about when they were first married that you know they would share a tube of tooth toothpaste. But if one person may squeeze the toothpaste at the front, and the other person would roll it up and squeeze it from the back. And I'm not saying which one is right or wrong. It all depends on the person. It all depends on the person. But everybody knows that you roll the toothpaste from the back and pull all the stuff up to the front. But in marriage, it doesn't work that way. And so it could irritate you to the nth degree, it could exceed your limitations of your medication. But the point of the matter is you gotta work it out and come to some kind of agreement. Either you all just agree to squeeze it at the front, or you all agree you squeeze it from the back, doesn't matter, or you decide to have two toothpaste and you just settle the argument. It's yeah, exactly, like Liz and I have done. We have our own toothpaste. So that's just a funny example.

SPEAKER_02 24:44

I have heard of a marriage that broke up because the husband chewed ice and the wife couldn't stand it.

SPEAKER_05 24:51

Well, there you go.

SPEAKER_02 24:52

You know what I'm saying? There's a scripture in the Bible that says it's the little foxes that destroy the vine. And I'm telling you, if we let each little thing of our spouses irritate us, it can drive a wedge. And the enemy is great at that. He can drive a wedge right right in there. Now, I did have to say one thing, like with myself, there is one pet peeve that I have that that both Gil and Mom will do. And we just had to talk about it. And I just had to ask them, can you please do this? Because the other way drives me bad. Generally, at the end of the day, it's been a long day. Gil's been out at work, you know, I'm working in the office, da-da-da. We have dinner, take our showers, and we just like to sit down and watch something on TV to relax and unwine. But Gil and mom love to just go and get the popcorn bag or the chip bag and don't bother to pour it into a bowl. No, they like to eat right out of the bag. And so every time they would dip their hand into that bag, you hear that bag rustling the whole way down, the whole way out, every time their hand went into it. And it would just drive me bonkers. So I just asked them, can you guys please just put it in a bowl? And then I don't have to listen to the rustling bags. That is just that was just one pet peeve. And thankfully they were so open to that and they did it. And Gil even went out and bought these nice popcorn, you know, plastic tubs that they put it on now and everything. But seriously, though, it's these little things that if we allow to just get under our skin and stay there, they the enemy can use them to drive a wedge. And we'll be getting much deeper into that as we go along, because the enemy can begin putting thoughts in our head towards our spouse that just aren't true. That if we aren't open and communicating with one another and trusting one another, then real wedges come in and separation and then divorce is the next steps. There are ways around this conflict. And so we were making notes at 6 a.m. in the morning on things that we were discussing, make making notes of key points that we wanted to remember. We were writing down covenants we were making so we could resolve areas of conflict, big or small. If the relationship isn't healthy, if it isn't open, honest, and free, things build up inside of us. Gil and I, we work in business together. It's hard to be husband and wife, growing a business, working in a business together. Two different giftings, so different in our giftings. There were times when we didn't see or recognize each other's giftings, and we just butted heads a lot. My parents living with us, and then dad had dementia. I mean, there are pressures, pressures that come against marriage. And I think the pressures against marriage today in our society are almost like a thousand times over what they were. Society's different now. There's a lot more pressures. So we when we would get up at six, almost every morning as we went along, buried issues, unresolved issues, hurts began to come out. And frankly, sometimes we'd end those times together. Sometimes they ended tense. Sometimes we were mad. Sometimes we were hurt. But we realized something. At least we were talking. We were not pushing things under a rock. We weren't just reacting. We were coming to some agreements. We were coming into some covenants. And you know what? Jesus said that you shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free. And as truth began to come out, it opened up our marriage to what we really wanted and desired from one another. That intimacy, that fellowship, that connection. We just want to share from our experiences because when I hear a testimony and I hear what's happened in someone else's life, I'm like, that gives me hope for mine. Or, hey, that's something that I haven't been doing that I would really like to get working in my life. So prayerfully and by the power and anointing of the Holy Spirit, things that we share, things that we have gone through, things that we communicate with you very vulnerably on as we move along, we realize and the hope that any marriage can change, any marriage situation can be worked around if we allow truths presented to dig deep into our lives that have been off limits in the past. So, what were some of the results of our 6 a.m. morning sessions? Sometimes when we up mad or or heard the results were we were talking, as I said, but our home atmosphere began to S H I F T shift. It began to shift. Why? Because we were willing to listen and not just hear, but listen to one another and respect their feelings and what they were dealing with, and recognize maybe, hey, I had a part in that. We were recognizing each other's opinions and hurts and frustrations. A greater level of respect and honor came. And Gil and I became more close and more intimate. And we began experiencing the blessings of that deeper intimacy and oneness more than ever before. We're so excited to move along and to share this time together with you. No matter where your marriage relationship is today, it can always be better. Even if it's good, it can be better. Even if it's maybe dysfunctional, it can be better. God has more for you than you can imagine. So we're looking forward to next week because we're going to dive deeper into just what makes a marriage bulletproof and the power of covenants. You won't want to miss it. So just a little spoiler alert: there are some great topics ahead. Not textbook. They're going to be real, they're going to be relevant topics that affect your marriage every day. Thank you so much for listening. We appreciate you. We'd love to hear from you. Go ahead and follow us, share the show with your family or a friend who really needs to hear it. You never know how even one word that could be used to turn a situation around. So until next time, God bless. So, Gil, what is in your heart and why do you believe there is such a need today for the wisdom and biblical insight that is found in the bulletproof marriage?

SPEAKER_05 32:37

Marriage is considered sacred in many church denominations. It's important, it's significant, it's a three-way sacred commitment between men and women and God. My parents were married all my life. Never did I ever really see them argue or disagree. They worked out their marriage. They worked it out between them and their f and what I saw was a unified front. Two people working together for a common goal. My wife, her parents were married her entire life. Uh they got married at a very early age, 16 and 17 years old. They stayed together through thick and thin, through times of trouble and and times of turmoil in their lives. They they too they stuck it out. My wife's view of marriage was she saw different aspects. Liz, what what did you see in your parents at times?

SPEAKER_02 34:00

Well, they were married in 1950, and dad passed away in 2024. They were married 74 years. That's a long time. Um, but unlike your parents, it if my parents disagreed, they didn't take it behind closed doors. You know, we saw that sometimes. Um sometimes they would be, especially before we got saved, and and dad got saved. Uh I remember living in Ohio and they got in a fight one day, and then the from the kitchen, you know, someone threw an egg down the hallway onto the entry hall wall, and that egg stayed there for a while. I don't know who threw it, and I don't know who cleaned it up, but that egg stayed there. Um and there were times, actually, that that it would get kind of bad. And, you know, I remember one time mom left and she says, I'm gonna go back to Ohio. Uh she made it to Ocala and she turned around. Um, another time dad went and spent a couple nights in the holiday inn here in Stewart because he they just, you know, gotten into such a fight. But he came back and he just talked about sharing the room with the cockroaches. Um, but divorce was not the option. They did work it out through the trials. And I I don't know, it kind of feel like, you know, today we have to be willing to not expect perfection from each of our spouses. And I think that's where we can kind of, I think that's where we can kind of, you know, just think, God, how is this ever gonna work? We don't get along, we don't this or that, you know. But that's part of what bulletproof marriage is gonna help people through because there are ways to work out those conflicts, but we can't expect perfection in each other. And how are we going to, you know, get past and get through these times where we don't agree?

SPEAKER_05 36:11

So that's true. So that's what we're seeing. We're seeing the fruit of people that are living together and not have a commitment together.

SPEAKER_02 36:24

Hmm. So and because they have a negative view of it somewhere, somewhere in their family, it could have been their parents, it could have been somebody else, or maybe their parents weren't married. You know?

SPEAKER_05 36:35

Yeah. The so what we're seeing is a a shift in society where people no longer are they really willing to get married. They're they they it's more convenient for them to just live together and do life together. And if it doesn't work out, then there's no there's no binding contract between them, and they just separate. And it doesn't matter if they have bought a house together or children together or anything of that nature, because they they'll just they don't they don't think about the the repercussions that happen in that. And what what what they're actually doing is they're they're breaking, they're they're going against, I should say, the very foundation that God had instituted from the beginning. When God put Adam and Eve together, they became one flesh, they were one entity. And people don't sense that anymore. They don't they don't they don't want that that connection, or they don't seem to want that connection because they don't have a good role for that connection. And so therefore it's a s it's a time where men and women they they don't really look forward to, they don't they don't desire to be married.

SPEAKER_00 38:00

And they're getting married later and later, statistics get annoying.

SPEAKER_05 38:03

Yeah, getting married later and later. Um they've they're forming negative opinions on marriage because they've never witnessed a bulletproof marriage. They've they they don't know what uh that type of uh union is uh all about. They don't know what it means to sit down with a with a spouse and and work out differences and um things that irritate things that that drive the other person crazy. Where so today, you know, when Bishop goes to Europe, he preaches on the marriage and bulletproof marriage and different uh aspects of the relationship of marriage, and they think he he's speaking a different language. Yeah, they don't they don't understand it, they don't see it, they don't they don't experience it.

SPEAKER_02 38:59

Well, in their society over there too, it's not held sacred, you know. We've walked away from the Bible as the foundation of our truth, and so therefore they just they don't see the need, but we can't negate truth. God did ordain marriage, and that's where He wanted the family, He wanted us born into a family, raised in a secure family to be able to procreate and keep it going generation after generation.

SPEAKER_05 39:41

Well, I think this is what we this is what we need to focus on. This is where we need to bring to people. We need to teach them about the bulletproof marriage.

SPEAKER_02 39:57

And it's the power of it. That's the power of it. Because in this series, we are going to learn and really hear uh the beauty of this covenant relationship and how to get it working together. Um, because our marriages really can be bulletproof and we can provide that secure environment for our children and for our family. And these are blessings and generational blessings that get passed down, that bring blessings uh to our children and our grandchildren and down the generation.

SPEAKER_05 40:33

I think in this introduction, I think that one thing that you just said about covenant, about learning how to make things work. I think when when the word covenant is spoken, when the word covenant is spoken, I don't believe people understand the full impact of that word, and they do not how and they do not know how to implement a covenant in their relationship, and how powerful that covenant is in their relationship, where it brings accountability between each other and it brings about a change in their relationships, and it brings harmony, it brings continuity, it brings peace into a relationship.

SPEAKER_02 41:34

And I would say too that it brings unity, as you said, but it brings that connection that we're really looking for. I mean, aren't we look we're made for fellowship? We get married because we want to spend the rest of our lives with this person, with this best friend that we have, you know, and we want that oneness and we want that communication and that intimacy. That's where it all flows from.

SPEAKER_04 42:03

Amen.

SPEAKER_02 42:04

Amen. So, Gil, what is in your heart and why do you believe there is such a need today for the wisdom and biblical insight that is found in the bulletproof marriage?

SPEAKER_05 42:23

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